I believe we all are the hero of our life story. No matter how energetic, motivated, or intelligent we are, we will all have life happen to us and get knocked to the floor at some point.
But it is not what happens to us that matters. It's what we do with what happens to us.
My work and my passion are as a mentor and a coach to women who have been experienced the devastation of betrayal and have been wounded by someone they trusted. However, they've decided to take their life back by being intentional about their healing process and allowing the pain and betrayal they've endured to serve as a detour on the way to their divine purpose.
I had just pledged the most prestigious sorority for public-service oriented black women, and I was a leader at work, in my church and on my college campus. I had always been a go-getter, and I was committed to success no matter what.
Deep-down…perhaps like you…I had something to prove to myself. I didn’t have the best childhood experiences. I was supposed to live a struggling and mediocre life statistically speaking. But I had decided that I wasn’t going to be about that life.
I was (and still am!) a nerdy, politically woke, and socially-conscious creative who had huge dreams of entrepreneurship and world travel. Oh, and I was saving myself for marriage so that I could have something special to share with my future husband.
I quickly learned that my drive, my goals, and my God-given gifts that so many people appreciated about me also made it difficult for people to know what to do with me. It made it difficult for some of my friends and family to understand me. And by default, my relationships with guys were…well…complicated.
I attracted Type A men because they had enough ego to not to be intimidated by my strong personality. But that was a recipe for “power struggle” and insecurity. These same men used to not being challenged, questioned or told “no” or “you’ll have to wait” heard all of that from me. I was a secure, confident and motivated young woman.
I had gone through some things in my childhood that made me feel helpless and powerless. As a young woman I had made it my mission to never feel that way again.
Then life hit me hard. I had a series of violations in relationship. I experienced extreme hurt and betrayal at the hands of people I trusted and loved. People who had titles...like "boyfriend", "pastor", and "best friend".
I went from being a secure, smart, confident young woman to...at my lowest point...having every ounce of self-worth stolen and instantly feeling lower than the floor.
I was miserable. I was depressed. I questioned whether being that strong-willed and driven self-starter was who I even wanted to be anymore. It had brought me such pain and disappointment. I blamed myself for a little while. I did.
You may be there now. Your drama or trauma might not be the same as mine. But your dreams, your commitment to creating your ideal life, and your confidence in your plans and purpose has been damaged because of pain, brokenness, and betrayal.
You may be dealing with a serious break-up, divorce, loss of friendship, a recent emotional, physical, or sexual violation, or just crippling loneliness.
I’ve been there. I've had violations in a relationship.
MY COME UP...
But I did not stay there.
I went through a process of healing and transformation over a period of a year and a half. By the end of that process, I knew myself more intimately and I had fallen in love with my life story—which included that horrific last chapter.
I went on to start a career helping people through tough times.
I provided counseling and coaching in my 9 to 5 as a Social Worker for 8 years before starting my own coaching business. As a social worker I'd worked with hundreds of clients after life happened to them and I'd seen the steps they took throughout their healing journey that got the best results.
You might be saying “Chaena…you say ‘results’ like you’re talking about business or working out in the gym.” Well, its because I’ve learned that it requires strategy and intentional action to be healed and stay whole.
My clients have gone through relationship violations like divorces, rejection, undesired extended loneliness, domestic violence, sexual assault, and childhood traumas. I help them be intentional about turning their pain into purpose and finding beauty after betrayal.
I provide the information, strategies/tools and emotional support to help them do the intentional personal growth work needed to heal after life has happened and manifest the life and relationship they deserve.
When we’re strategic with our personal life, we don’t leave it to hope and chance. Instead, we do the work to TAKE control of our lives.
I equip my clients to do just that by teaching them my signature step-by-step coaching Process that I passionately call the "Heal Intentionally Blueprint.”
If you’re determined not to let your past traumas, dramas, or screw ups interfere with or delay your success anymore, you’re right where you need to be.
If life has recently hit you and you want to become a better woman despite it, you’re in the right place.
I know what it feels like to be in the fog of betrayal, to feel weak, to have gone through something so life-altering that you kind of lost who you are.
I know what it feels like to be ready to step into something AWESOME like starting a business or a new relationship and wanting to be sure you’ll be successful this time.
There are millions of women in that fog or just coming out of the haze who could use some directed coaching and a proven system to help you get through it and to happiness in that area quicker, with fewer setbacks and less skipped steps.
I went through what I went through for you.
The gift of personal development and transformation has given me the ability to heal and overcome.
I’m now a wife to an amazingly loving husband, mother of 2 beautiful children, and a successful author and coach. I’m still a nerd, I love a good TV show, and a good meal! I’m a creative and deeply spiritual. But importantly, I believe I’m here to help women change an area of pain into something beautiful.
If you’ve read this far, thank you. I hope this is just the beginning of our relationship. Why not go ahead and become part of the Heal Intentionally Crew so we can stay connected?— I just need your name and email address.
PLUS, if you subscribe you’ll get my Heal Intentionally Blueprint and a video Mini-Masterclass as my gift to you.
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